've been gone from the beauty section of Q.A.C for a bit, but before I wrap up my natural hair beauty series, I wanted to be sure that I talked about how I tackle wash day! Now, like many naturalistas, wash day is often this long dreaded part of the week, and as it grows, the task sometimes becomes even more arduous. Thankfully, after nearly 9 years natural (6 of which I actually knew what I was doing LOL), I've mastered my wash day down to a science. Now like all of my hair posts for this series, I'm going to try and keep this demo short and brief.
Like so many, I've been struggling with dry, itchy scalp my entire life. My struggles go beyond just a bit of dandruff and the occasional itch. Instead, what I have is a condition called "eczema." Basically, this means that I have a condition that means my skin is extremely sensitive. If I get lazy and choose not to moisturize properly ... If I use a product that causes me to have an allergic reaction (anything nut based) ... If my scalp / skin decides to just act a fool because it can, it will! At it's worse, my scalp becomes scabby, inflamed, severely itchy, and sore/ tender. To combat this, I've been very diligent in the products I use on my skin and on my scalp. As any true "shea butter queen," nearly all of my products are natural ... My motto? ... If I can't eat or pronounce it? ... It doesn't belong on my body. Ironically, despite America's use of so many troublesome chemicals in food and beauty products, there has been this resurgence of organic / natural products, many of which have been in existence for hundred if not thousands of years.
Shrinkage. Men hate it ... Women, hate it even more, trust me fellas lol! However, when it comes to natural hair, there's this false notion that unless you absolutely love ALL aspects of you hair in its natural form, you must have some secret self-hatred within. This is especially the case when it comes to kinkier textures. Let me be the 1st to tell you, I'm completely in love with my hair ... from its thickness and volume to its health ... I love it! ... And yet, like most relationships, no one can say with a straight face that there aren't a few aspects which bother you or wish you could change. I mean really. Do you mean to say you love it when he leaves that toilet seat up .. or when she decides to pick off your plate after ordering her own? Didn't think so. LOL. The same thinking applies to how I handle my hair.
Let me preface this by saying, deciding to invest yourself and grow your natural hair won't be easy. If you're already somewhere on the natural hair journey, then I'm sure you've already heard this. But let's be clear. It's not just about finding a few great products or getting to know your hair in a generally superficial way. Nah ... To really see the results you're looking for, you need to get your hands dirty, take charge, and get intimate. In hoping to fully get your hair to respond, you need to treat it like your lover! Just like your lover, you need to know their like and dislikes ... what makes them happy ... what turns them on and keeps them moist (LOL) ... what triggers cause them to spaz out and most importantly? How to remedy the situation. In short, you need to know your hair so completely, that it doesn't even need to speak to you in order for you to be able to know how its feeling and instinctively what it needs from you. In order to start this process, I have 6 quick tips to get you on the road to being the kind of in tuned lover your hair has been craving!
Ladies! Let's have some real girl chat for a quick second, shall we? What is it about tough breakups that make us say " F*ck it! " ... LOL! I mean seriously. A really hard breakup will have us saying, " F*ck him! ... And matter of fact? ... * Goes to the bathroom to get scissors* ... F*ck this hair too! I'm done!..." Ladies what is that about? LOL! Somehow, so many of us find this cathartic release in shedding our hair. How many of you have marked a new beginning or major life change via a cut or drastic change to your tresses? I know I have! .. grumbles ... stupid boys smh! At any rate, a few years ago, not long after the tears dried, I looked in the mirror and realized just that. I needed to find happiness and reboot my life, starting with something simple .. my hair.